There is actually a huge list of "Only Child Myths" you can find them at: http://thestir.cafemom.com/big_kid/158837/11_myths_about_only_children.
It really urk's me that people would think that I am ruining my child's life by making the choice to not have anymore kids, I mean really, who do you think you are? Having just one child was a choice that me and my Husband made together. One of the myth's that get's me the most is that my child is going to be lonely, My Child is not lonely, she has friends. My Child is not spoiled, we dont have much. My Daughter never has everything that she wants, but she has what she needs.
After reading several articles online I have come to the realization that no matter how many people tell me that I am ruining my Child's life because I have made the choice to no have any more kids, I have studies that prove that my Daughters life is not going to be one big mess. With the way this economy is right now, it's just not practical and we cant afford it. The cost of Raising a child has sadly gone up since the time my Grandparents were raising their kids. It now cost around $300,00 just to raise a kid till their 18yrs old, that's not including added medical expense in case something should happen. I'm in no way complaining, I love my Daughter more then anything in this world and I would have her all over again if i had the chance. My Husband works 10 hours a day 40 hours a week making $10.00 an hour and me well I stay at home with the baby, but we get by, We do have a roommate who helps with bill's (Most people would say we are nuts but he is our best friend and My daughter's Godfather), but our roommate is getting Social Security and going to school and even with him around we still struggle. I have talked to more and more people, and have found that 8 out of 10 of them have someone living with them to help with the bills. Example, My Husband works in a big call center and at-least half of 300+ people that work their live with each other. So They way I see thing's is that it would be wrong for me to bring a second child into this world and make them suffer because we could never fully provide for them. I am like every Mother should be, My child Eats before I do, My Child has everything she need's before I do, My Child Always has her clothes washed before me, etc. My Child ALWAYS comes first. I will admit that there were nights when I would not eat because I could not bear to eat another freaking cup of Ramen Noodles, but when it came to my Daughter's dinner she would either eat eggs (Girl loves her eggs), a tuna sandwich with carrot sticks and juice or what ever she was craving that night. I may eat like crap, but I'm sure as hell not going to let my daughter eat crap.
What it all boil's down to I guess is that I will be keeping my Daughter an only child. No Babies here, unless it's a puppy.
Love
Christiania
After reading several articles online I have come to the realization that no matter how many people tell me that I am ruining my Child's life because I have made the choice to no have any more kids, I have studies that prove that my Daughters life is not going to be one big mess. With the way this economy is right now, it's just not practical and we cant afford it. The cost of Raising a child has sadly gone up since the time my Grandparents were raising their kids. It now cost around $300,00 just to raise a kid till their 18yrs old, that's not including added medical expense in case something should happen. I'm in no way complaining, I love my Daughter more then anything in this world and I would have her all over again if i had the chance. My Husband works 10 hours a day 40 hours a week making $10.00 an hour and me well I stay at home with the baby, but we get by, We do have a roommate who helps with bill's (Most people would say we are nuts but he is our best friend and My daughter's Godfather), but our roommate is getting Social Security and going to school and even with him around we still struggle. I have talked to more and more people, and have found that 8 out of 10 of them have someone living with them to help with the bills. Example, My Husband works in a big call center and at-least half of 300+ people that work their live with each other. So They way I see thing's is that it would be wrong for me to bring a second child into this world and make them suffer because we could never fully provide for them. I am like every Mother should be, My child Eats before I do, My Child has everything she need's before I do, My Child Always has her clothes washed before me, etc. My Child ALWAYS comes first. I will admit that there were nights when I would not eat because I could not bear to eat another freaking cup of Ramen Noodles, but when it came to my Daughter's dinner she would either eat eggs (Girl loves her eggs), a tuna sandwich with carrot sticks and juice or what ever she was craving that night. I may eat like crap, but I'm sure as hell not going to let my daughter eat crap.
What it all boil's down to I guess is that I will be keeping my Daughter an only child. No Babies here, unless it's a puppy.
Love
Christiania
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